Friday, August 15, 2008

Self-Healing from Trauma Block 6: Relaxation Techniques

This week we are going to take a break from our self work and look at different ways to relax.  If you aren't done with the previous blocks then you can catch up this week.  If you are having trouble with any of this please let me know.

Look up the following techniques and see if any of them interest you.  All of these can be used as a form of relaxation, and you can find free information on the internet to get you started so that you don't have to go out and spend money to try it.  This of course is not a complete list but will get you started.

Reiki (I have a free Level I course for this at:  http://tailoredlifecoaching.com/Documents/Level 1 Reiki.pdf )

Yoga

Tai Chi

Meditation

Autogenic relaxation

Breathing Exercises

Visualization

Not every technique will work for everyone all the time, so look them up try a few and see what fits you best.  I have also written a little about Journals and Cleansing below.

Journals: Writing can be very relaxing. It is also a good way to get things out of your head for a while or to organize your thoughts. Some people take to keeping a journal quite easily and others feel like they are forcing themselves to do some task that is really very painful. If you feel the need to write and can’t think of what to write, just start writing whatever comes to mind. It doesn’t have to make sense and more than likely won’t at first, but just keep on writing. After an abusive relationship we will sometimes feel that everything in our heads is just spinning around and makes no sense. Putting these thoughts on paper is a good way to order them so that we can address issues that need to be addressed and put to rest the ones we determine aren’t worth the time it would take to address them.

Picking a journal can be fun. Don’t let this become a chore. Choose a journal that makes sense to you or looks inviting to you. Some will pick a nice sophisticated leather bound tome with elegant paper, others may choose a three ring binder that they draw a cover for themselves, and yet others will pick something in between. Be creative with it; get colored pens or pencils to reflect your moods. If you end up with a journal that you don’t like the looks of the cover or it reminds you of something bad then you will not use it.

You can make different sections for different things, or have entirely different journals for different things. Personally I like to use spiral bound journals and I have different ones for different things. I also use a three ring binder when working from lists so that I can change the order of things when needed without tearing out pages that will probably get lost. I even use an electronic journal at times because typing is faster for me, although the motion of writing is soothing and relaxing.

Cleansing:  Long baths or showers can prove to be very relaxing when you have the time. Baths tend to be more relaxing for most people but even if you don’t have the time for a long bath to just soak away aches and pains both physically and emotionally, you can just stay in the shower a little longer.

If you need a quick cleansing pick me up, try this after you have finished your normal shower routine. Turn the water to a little hotter than normal. With the water running on your back do a few five second count deep breaths while stretching your arms above your head as high as you can comfortably go, clear your thoughts, and breathe out the negative feelings as you bring your arms down.

Using candles, music, incense or other things of this nature that you find soothing will make a bath or shower more relaxing.