Note: The work described in this article usually requires Guidance and support by a person experienced in this work.
ADDITIONAL AIDS FOR THE SEARCH INTO THE CHILDHOOD YEARS
In addition to the work mentioned above, we can also apply some of the following methods:
1. Through the guidance of well-trained professional, we can re-experience memories of the past through "regressions" to our childhood years. Such regressions are done in a state of deep relaxation where our minds are able to focus more deeply on the events we want to remember and work with. There are three types of regressions.
a. Exploratory regressions where we are simply searching to discover what might have happened that has created a specific sensitivity or blockage in our lives today.
b. Releasing regressions where we are encouraged to express feelings in various ways with or without words so as to allow those blocked feelings and energies to flow and discharge.
c. Transformational regressions with which we relive the events but alter our perception of ourselves, others and life as mentioned previously in this chapter.
This is an approach that should be undertaken only with an experienced guide.
2. By writing the story of our childhood years, we can strengthen our contact with the details of the past. This can be written in the first person, but even better in the third person, as if we are chronicling the life of some other person or as the soul remembering the events of the mind and body. This enables us to be more objective and honest in our observations. We will discover patterns of behavior that we tend to repeat throughout the years. We will find the experiences that have marked our subconscious, creating our emotional mechanisms.
This life story need not be detailed in chronological order. Each day, we can add whatever we remember in any order.
The first comment made by many people is, " I don't remember anything before the age of ten. How will I do this?" This is no problem. As we start to write, the subconscious will be awakened and memories will start flowing forth. The more we write, the more the memories will be activated.
Placing old photographs before us as we write will help, as will asking parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and older brothers and sisters what they can remember. We are not obligated to accept their interpretation of the past, but their words may trigger other memories.
Best results will be obtained if we dedicate at least twenty minutes daily to this process for at least three months.
The basic guidelines for writing the story of our childhood years are:
a. Add whatever additional memories you remember each day.
b. It need not to be in chronological order.
c. We can write in the third or first person.
d. Ask others (parents, uncles, aunts, siblings, grandparents) what they remember.
e. Look at old pictures.
Note: We need to be very careful to avoid the trap of living in the past. The past does not exist. It is only an interpretation that we hold in our minds. When we let it go, it ceases to exist. Such exercises as questionnaires, regressions and writing a journal of the "past" serve to enable us to understand the substance from which the web of our illusions have been created. We are looking for how our illusions were created so that we can let go of them, not so that we can wallow in them reinforcing the idea that we were or are the victims or that we are guilty.
Nothing in the past can make us a victim or guilty. The past does not exist. We are bringing our interpretation of the past to the surface so that we can forgive others and ourselves for our mutual ignorance and move on to create something much more beautiful.
Continued in the next issue.
Adapted from the book The Psychology of Happiness by Robert Elias Najemy