Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Healing the Inner Child part 8

This is the eighth in a nine part series of articles by Robert Najemy of Holistic Harmony on Healing the Inner Child (Clarity issue 173).  I will be sharing the rest of the articles with you as well!

Questions

Note:  The work described in this article usually requires Guidance and support by a person experienced in this work.

3. A questionnaire for getting acquainted with the inner child
Answering these questions will assist our investigation into the messages we might have received in our childhood years. Complete the following sentences with at least three answers for each if possible. Also, try to remember exactly what happened which caused you to come to those assumptions.
a. As a child, I heard that my most significant faults were.....
b. As a child, I felt guilty about/for....
c. Some messages I received about God were...
d. Some messages I received about sex were...
e. Some messages I received about money were...
f. I felt rejection when...
g. I felt fear when...
h. I felt shame or inferiority when...
i. I felt abandonment when...
j. I felt secure and safe when...
k. I felt accepted and loved when...
l. I felt freedom when...
m. I felt gratitude when ...
n. I felt happiness when...
4. A deeper questionnaire concerning our beliefs
The following questionnaire will give us supplementary information concerning the programming we developed in those early years. Answer as honestly as you can, allowing enough time to establish contact with the various parts of your personality. Do not be surprised by needs, desires, beliefs and feelings that seem to conflict or be contradictory. This is quite common and natural for a person in the process of evolution who is passing through changes in his values, beliefs and needs.
Give three or more answers to each question.
A. The basis for our feelings of security.
1. The three positive human characteristics which I value most are ...
2. The three negative human characteristics that I find most unacceptable are...
3. I love and accept myself more when ....
4. I feel guilty when ...
5. I have negative feelings when...
6. I feel happy when ...
7. I feel insecure when...
8. I feel secure when...
9. I do not believe I can ....
10. If my house were on fire and I could save only three objects (excluding people or animals), they would be.....
11. My three strongest fears are....
B. How I perceive others and how I believe they perceive me.
12. How I believe my spouse or love partner perceives me. (Or previous spouse or love partner. Or all spouses and love partners we have had until now.)
13. Three of my spouse's (love partner's) positive traits are ...
14. Three of my spouse's (love partner's) negative traits are...
15. How I believe my parents perceive me....
16. My parents always told me that I was unable to ...
17. The criticism I heard most often from my parents was...
18. Three of my father's positive qualities were/are...
19. Three of my father's negative qualities were/are...
20. Three of my mother's positive qualities were/are...
21. Three of my mother's negative qualities were/are...
22. This is how I remember my parents' relationship until I was 21 years old.
23. I find it difficult to forgive others for...
C. How I see myself.
24. I feel weak and vulnerable when ...
25. The criticism I hear most often from those around me is...
26. Three of my positive character traits are...
27. Three of my weaknesses or faults are ...
28. I find it difficult to forgive myself for...
29. I feel unable to ...
30. I wish I could ...
31. I imagine God to be...
33. I feel God in my life when .... and in this way ...
34. My life purpose is ....
35. Now imagine that you are writing to a very good friend whom you have not seen since grammar school, and you want to describe yourself to him. How would you do it?

Continued in the next issue
Adapted from the book The Psychology of Happiness by Robert Elias Najemy
http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/ebookscb/index.asp

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