Friday, October 23, 2009

Self-Healing from Trauma Block 8


Block 1  Block 2  Block 3  Block 4  Block 5  Block 6  Block 7
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This is the last block in the Self-Healing from Trauma Series.  You can go through the exercises as many times as you need to in order to work out your needs and feelings.

You may have already noticed that by answering the questions about your emotions you are finding out things that you really hadn’t thought of before this point. Answer the questions (from Block 7) about these new feelings that arise, the same as you have the ones you already realized. Understanding exactly what you are feeling at any given time and knowing what actions will trigger what feelings will allow you to be in control of yourself.

For now, just knowing what emotions you are having is enough. You do not really need to do any major in depth analysis about how to re-route your feelings or how to change them. You only need to put them into order as to the ones that you feel you want to work on changing or getting rid of all together and the ones you want to keep or increase, and have a firm understanding as to why you want to do so.

When you are ready to begin in depth analysis of your emotions and feelings it is best to consult with someone that is experienced in guiding people to do so.

You may have also realized that there are emotions that you wish to experience that you are not experiencing at this time. Those feelings may be on your needs list. It is possible that you listed happiness as a need, since emotions or feelings can be needed. Or you may not have realized that you were missing some feeling you’d like to have until doing this assessment, and you can now go back and add this to your needs list.

Continue to work back and forth through your needs and feelings as you can or as you  feel it is needed until you can work through and gotten rid of your feelings that you no longer desire having and have achieved the things on your needs list.  If you never complete each list that is fine, as this is always a work in progress just as our lives are.

As you work with your lists add the things that you feel need to be added, while at the same time working to remove the things that you need to remove.  If you ever want to have feed back with any of this or to begin one to one sessions please email me at:

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

From one survivor to another


I found From one survivor to another on the Anonymums blog, this simple little exercise is so helpful and insightful.  Try it!!!

We all know that crazy making is not only an abusers tactic but also one exploited by the family court as a reason to reverse custody.  As Barbara Biggs said when she asked how many mothers lost custody were for "Mental Illness" reasons, "They cannot be all mentally ill". This is not to replace treatment by professionals, but just a simple trick a survivor did to thrive:

  1. Close your eyes and let all of your thoughts drift away until there is nothing.  
  2. Visualize a white computer screen with the word, "Think".  
  3. Hold it for as long as you can and count how many seconds you can hold this image for.
  4. For ___ many seconds, you were able to control what you thought.

Proof that you own the keyboard to your mind. 

Feel more empowered now?  I did!  Go on, try it again and again, you know you want to.

Monday, October 19, 2009

7 Myths of Depression | World of Psychology

Excerpt taken from World of Psychology 

By John M Grohol PsyD

October 18, 2009

Depression is often viewed as the “common cold” of mental disorders, because it is so prevalent in our lives. The lifetime prevalence of depression suggests that more than 1 in 9 people could be diagnosed with the disorder at one point in their lives. And unlike some other mental disorders, depression affects virtually every aspect of what you do and how you interact with others. Every year, it wreaks havoc in millions of Americans’ lives, especially amongst those who believe it is something you should just “get over” on your own.

Here are seven common myths about depression, and the facts that answer them.

1. Depression means I’m really “crazy” or just weak.

2. Depression is a medical disease, just like diabetes.

3. Depression is just an extreme form of sadness or grief.

4. Depression just affects old people, losers and women.

5. I’ll have to be on medications or in treatment for the rest of my life.

6. All I need is an antidepressant to treat depression effectively.

7. I’m doomed! My parents (or grandparents or great uncle) had depression, and isn’t it inherited?

I have only give the 7 reasons without the discussion and details of each.  Please visit:  7 Myths of Depression | World of Psychology  For the full article.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Leadership Council's Child Abuse and Custody Questionnaire

The Leadership Council is conducting a survey about Child Abuse and Custody.  If you fit into a category where either of those pertain to you, I urge you to take this survey.  Below is a little about it.  It takes about 20 to 30 minutes.  Without people doing the research to show that laws need to be revamped, changed or new ones all together......these laws will remain and abuse will continue to reign, with very little consequences to the abusers.  Please pass this on to anyone else you think may be interested in taking this survey.  Any bloggers out there?  Blog it too, please!

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The responses on this questionnaire will be reviewed and tabulated regularly to supply information to the media, legislators and academic investigations.

The information you post is confidential and will be reviewed only by the researchers and administrators who are working with the data. It cannot be accessed by the public, and as research data is protected information.

The information from this questionnaire will be utilized for the purpose of furthering our understanding of child protection issues. Group trends will be shared, but no individual data will be shared without explicit permission from you.

Thank you very much for your efforts in helping us generate information that may protect children from abuse.

The Leadership Council is a nonprofit independent scientific organization composed of respected scientists, clinicians, educators, legal scholars, and public policy analysts. We are committed to providing professionals and lay persons with the latest scientific information on issues that may affect the public's health and safety. We also seek to correct the misuse of psychological science to serve vested interests or justify victimizing vulnerable populations -- especially abused and neglected children.  The Leadership Council - Homepage