Wednesday, June 1, 2011

When Is It Time To Let Go Of Past Hurts?

All too often many of us have been hurt one way or another by someone we know. We all deal with the pain differently but the hurt is always there. Even when you try to apply the principle of "forgiving and forgetting" there always seems to be a situation that brings back the hurt all over again. You may question whether or not there is any resolution to moving past the hurt. My answer to you is simply-- if you choose to move past the hurt, the hurt will move past you.

I can think of many situations within my own life where I have been hurt emotionally and physically by individuals who I cared about. I know what it is like to feel abandoned by a parent. I know what it is like to watch relatives fight among each other for "no apparent reason." I even know what it is like to be a survivor of domestic abuse. I know the hurt that go along with these issues as I lived them within my own life. I have felt the pain and the hurt of trying to understand why it happened to me. I never understood what I did wrong to deserve such treatment but it did happen. For many years I struggled with letting go of the hurt as I felt that it was the fire that I needed to "champion" over people and my situations. I used my past hurts as a torch to remind me that I had to always be on top no matter who I had to trample on. What I did not know was that the fire that I used for survival was the exact same fire that almost killed me.

It was through me holding onto past hurts that made me question my individuality. I found myself drinking more and having thoughts of suicide on a regular basis. I even started developing chest pains at the age of 24 due to me holding on to this burning desire to "champion" over my past hurts. It seemed like the higher I climbed up the mountain of success, the more my self-esteem faded in the distance. I found myself living a life to appease others and not a life that pleased me. It was not until I crumbled that I realized that all of the hurts I chose to hold onto were sabotaging my present and future endeavors. I had to make a change before it was too late or was I already too late?

For me, there is no such thing as being too late when it comes to reclaiming your person hood. Every day you deserve to live a life of peace, wholeness, and happiness regardless of what has occurred within your past life. I finally let go of the past when I discovered that I was still an "able body person" designed to help other people find success within their lives. Even when I was trying to get ahead of others I always found myself encouraging people to strive for more within their lives. I probably did this because I did not want those around me to experience the pain and pressure I felt for so many years. Everyday I am thankful that I made the decision to just let it go. Have those memories been erased from my thoughts? NO! However, I have chosen not to replay those memories of past hurts in my mind as I see how they would impact my current endeavors. Daily I choose to live in the present moment and let the past be the past. As I tell everyone, this was the best lesson I ever learned from my son as a toddler as he shows me daily that every day is a brand new day filled with great opportunities to take hold of.

So what in your past are you holding onto that has become a road block to your present life? Are you willing to make a start to living a life that seeks to promote the present while allowing the past to stay in yesterday's world? If you are ready to make that switch, then consider moving on from your past hurts. The more you begin to shake off the dust from the past the clearer you will be able to see what is presently in front of you. So take the time today to forgive yourself and those who may have hurt you in the past. Choose today not to allow your past hurts to triumph over your present life's path.

April Lisbon-Peoples is a growth and development coach who enjoys inspiring her clients to find their life's purpose through becoming visionaries. She the founder and CEO of Running Your Race, a coaching practice designed for individuals who are ready to awaken their visions and create their destiny.

April has written various articles focusing on elevating and motivating people as they aim towards reaching their highest potential. She aspires to help her clients live their dreams while gaining and maintaining a level of healthy success. So if you are ready to fly like the eagles and see your vision come to past, then visit her at [] or e-mail her at

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